In order not to sweat the small stuff, we first have to identify the big stuff.
Big stuff is everything that’s value-based.
Small stuff is mostly a matter of preference.
What are your values — ideals and concepts that you hold dear as a human — things that actually matter at the end of the day?
How about love, loyalty, honesty, hard-work, achievement, compassion, charity, family, friendship…
If you still have a hard time coming up with values, try to imagine what you will definitely not miss at your death bed.
Will you mope about not watching enough TV with your children? Wish they had loved baseball as you do? Regret that they had gone into business instead of pursuing a teaching career?
Or will you be comforted by the thought of having brought into being, children who have grown up to be responsible adults, full of purpose and integrity, ready to serve God, men, and country?
Cherish and honor the different paths your child take to grow into that person you are molding.
The different paths are the small stuff. The person is the big stuff. Pick your battle, wisely.